Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake

Its odd when I think of the arc of my life, from child to young woman to aging adult. First I was who I was. Then I didnt know who I was. Then I invented someone, and became her. Then I began to like what Id invented. And finally I was what I was again. It turned out I wasnt alone in that particular progression. From Anna Quindlen, #1 New York Times bestselling author and winner of the Pulitzer Prize, comes this irresistible memoir about her life and the lives of women today. Candid, funny, moving, Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake is filled with the sharp insights and revealing observations that have long confirmed Quindlens status as Americas laureate of real life. As she did in her beloved New York Times columns, and in A Short Guide to a Happy Life, Quindlen says for us here what we may wish we could have said ourselves. Using her past, present, and future to explore what matters most to women at different ages, Quindlen talks about Marriage: “A safety net of small white lies can be the bedrock of a successful marriage. You wouldnt believe how cheaply I can do a kitchen renovation. †Girlfriends: “Real friends offer both hard truths and soft landings and realize that its sometimes more important to be nice than to be honest. †Our bodies: “Ive finally recognized my body for what it is, a personality-delivery system, designed expressly to carry my character from place to place, now and in the years to come. Its like a car, and while I like a red convertible or even a Bentley as well as the next person, what I really need are four tires and an engine. †Parenting: “Being a parent is not transactional. We do not get what we give. It is the ultimate pay-it-forward: We are good parents, not so they will be loving enough to stay with us, but so they will be strong enough to leave us. †From childhood memories to manic motherhood to middle age, Quindlen uses the events of her own life to illuminate our own. Along with the downsides of age, she says, can come wisdom, a perspective on life that makes it both satisfying and even joyful. So heres to lots of candles, plenty of cake.