Embracing Intimacy: Making Love Come Alive in Your Relationship

• Has your relationship gone dead? 
• Do you long for the closeness you used to have?
• Is the passion and sexual excitement gone?
• Is there an atmosphere of hostility between you? 
• Do you pretend that you don't need anything in the relationship?
• Have you pulled away from your partner?

With Embracing Intimacy, you can learn to...

• Have the love and closeness you want.
• Have someone who will really listen to your feelings.
• Regain that passion and spark!
• Enjoy deep affection and caring.
• Feel free to be fully yourself with your partner.
• Have that special someone to share your life with.

We all want love in our lives. We want our marriages to be close and intimate. We want our love relationships to provide us with care, nurturing, affection, sex, and sharing. However, many couples have difficulty achieving this.

Your relationship may have started out with lots of excitement and love, but somewhere along the way, it vanished. You may have begun fighting so often that you withdrew out of fear or a feeling of frustration with your partner. Or maybe you just gradually grew distant from each other without really knowing why.

Perhaps you started out your current relationship with the hope that it would be fulfilling, only to find that you never really connected in the deep way you yearned for.

Maybe you have had a series of relationships that ended up lacking closeness, or maybe it has only been a problem in your current one.

Embracing Intimacy will help you understand why your relationships lack intimacy and will show you how to change that. You can develop the intimacy you want by exploring the Intimacy-Avoiding Pattern, an interpersonal pattern in which you consciously or unconsciously avoid intimacy. If you or your partner has this pattern, it will prevent you from having the deep, abiding love and closeness you want.

The book will help you understand the fears that are behind your intimacy avoidance. These fears are usually unconscious and come from unresolved childhood pain. We will help you to work through your fears so you can learn to open up to closeness. It will help you set up a practice for creating intimacy in your relationships.

This book is not for couples. It isn't about how to communicate better or how to stop fighting. It is for an individual in a love relationship who wants to work on changing his or her pattern of relating in order to have greater intimacy. If you and your partner both have an Intimacy-Avoiding Pattern, each of you can use this book to work on yourself. There is an important place for a couple working together on creating intimacy, and this book can indirectly contribute to that, but it isn't the primary focus.

Embracing Intimacy is also for people who aren't currently in a love relationship but have had blocks to intimacy in past relationships. By working through the issues in this book, you will prepare yourself to have greater closeness in future relationships.

My wife, Bonnie Weiss, and I have been married for many years. We have a wonderful sense of love and intimacy in our relationship, but we have had to work on ourselves and our marriage to get to this point. I believe that we have been so successful in creating a happy, close relationship because of all the psychological work we each have done on our patterns over the years.

I know what is possible in an intimate, loving relationship, and I invite you to read this book and work with the exercises so you can also attain the closeness you desire.

This book is based on the Pattern System, a comprehensive and detailed map of the human psyche.

Embracing Intimacy is more than a book. It includes
* An online workbook
* An online quiz
* Recorded guided meditations
* An online community